Today we continue with the series we started three saturday’s ago on – Effective Communication in Marriage. Communication is the concept or process of exchanging information between two or more persons. When we zero it down to marriage it will mean – The concept or process of exchanging information between a husband and wife. Effective Communication between a husband and wife is very key to the success or failure of their relationship.
Tip 4 – The Principle of Mirroring: Understanding can be enhanced if we measure it often throughout a conversation.
The Scriptures inform us that, if we are to understand and become wise, we must be sure to incline our ears. Proverbs 22:17 states, “Incline your ear and
hear the words of the wise, and apply your mind to my knowledge.”
Have you ever meant one thing by what you said but the person you were talking to heard something else? It can make for very frustrating communication especially between spouses. If you’re not sure if your spouse is getting what you’re talking about, check to see if you hear this phrase a lot in your relationship: “What do you mean by that ?” Mirroring can help you test whether you are hearing your spouse properly. Once your spouse makes a point … repeat it to him or her. Say something like this: “So, what I hear you saying is …” or, “Are you saying … ?” Then, in your own words, tell your spouse what you understood from what he/she said. Then, the most important part of mirroring comes. You must allow your spouse to either affirm or correct what you’ve said.
The point of mirroring is not to be right, nor to defend yourself, but to know that you are hearing your spouse accurately. If you seek to understand rather than to make yourself to be understood, then you are primed for success with the principle of mirroring.
Start the feedback mechanism in your communication.
Have a Grace filled day – Good News awaits you.
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Last modified: November 14, 2015
